Whatever things are true, honorable, just, pure, lovely; whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on these things.
So, I am a super positive person – says so in my blog title; don’t visit my website if you’re looking for bad business reviews or negative viewpoints, especially about the things I love most, like Jesus, Cheyenne, Country Music, my hubby, my family, or America in general…Anyway, that doesn’t mean the world doesn’t get to me, like really get to me sometimes…And right now, the world is such a negative place.
Some days, staying positive takes baby steps…
Controlling my Social Media feed….Sometimes, I control the time of day, and how much time I spend on it. Sometimes, I take a complete break and leave my phone at home. I get this isn’t always possible; I own a business and work a day job too, but I tell my business partner and my boss I’ll be away from my phone for the day. Sometimes the decision is made for me when we are at a job site “off the grid.” We have to take breaks though. We were not designed to be connected to technology.
Controlling my thoughts– this one is a little harder…the Bible, which is where I get most of my wisdom for life, says to take control of your thoughts and hold them captive. It isn’t easy, but I try to ask myself when I hear negative things; Is it true? What is the source of the information? Even if it is true, is it really going to turn out for the worst? And even if it does…I have faith God will be with me through it…so I guess, I think about my thinking.
Controlling the negative around me– if you have a ton of negative friends, I urge you to do a little housing cleaning in your relationships, but even if you surround yourself with positive people, you can’t expect everyone to be positive all the time. Sometimes friends go through heavy things that weigh on us…It is part of being in a relationship. I take a mental moment to lay those cares on Jesus and let him be in control. There are so many things in life we humans can’t comprehend…that is why God is God, he is in control…let him be in control. A worry jar is a great way to start this habit or refresh it if you need a tangible action to help you.
Using those coping skills…what are your coping skills? Mine are blogging, posting positive quotes, spending time with my family, praying, cleaning, yes cleaning, cooking/canning/winemaking – not that great at any of it…exercise should be in everyone’s coping skills list for the serotonin alone, and I’m sure I could think of a few more, but the point is, are they built into your routine? I try to use a coping skill every day, but when I feel off…it’s usually because I am out of whack with my coping skills!
During the pandemic, there have been several days I came home from work and found my youngest organizing my kitchen cabinets, and even as I sit here this morning writing, I see where he organized the dog toys…lol, it’s his coping skill. Even as a kid, he understands he needs to take control when he feels the world is out of control. His room is crazy clean right now…another way to think of coping skills is our “locus of control.” We humans have to feel a sense of control or we lose our minds…what daily habits make you feel a sense of control or a grounding? Put those controls in place right now as things go crazy…